You know that feeling when sex becomes a habit? When you both know the script for the evening by heart, and the bedroom has become a place exclusively for sleeping? If so, congratulations! This is not a reason to panic. It's an invitation to a new, exciting game. Routine is a normal part of any long-term relationship. Scientifically proven that novelty is key to maintaining attraction [link to study on the Coolidge effect]. So consider this article your map to guide you from a small spark to a real bonfire of passion. Ready for an adventure?
"The strongest aphrodisiac is communication. Before trying new positions, try talking about your fantasies. You'll be surprised how much you have in common." — Anna, pleasure expert secretedem.com.
Foundation for experiments: where to start
Before jumping headlong into the pool, it is worth building a reliable raft of trust and mutual understanding.
Frank conversation "Map of desires"
Set aside an evening, pour yourself a glass of wine, and just talk. No accusations or expectations. Tell each other your wildest or even funniest sexual fantasies . You can write them down on pieces of paper and take turns pulling them out. The main thing is to listen and not judge.
Creating an atmosphere
Change the setting! If you can't leave town, turn your kitchen, bathroom, or balcony into a place for lovemaking. Dim lights, new music, and scented candles are all signals to your brain that tonight will be different.
The Big Game: Ideas for Diversity by Courage Levels
We have prepared a step-by-step plan for you on how to diversify your sex life , moving from simple to more daring. Choose your level or go through them all!
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Level |
Idea for implementation |
What you will need (from polunichka.ua) |
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1. Gentle start |
Erotic full body massage; shared candlelit bath. |
Massage candles with aphrodisiacs, aromatic bath bombs. |
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2. Playful flirting |
Sexting and exchanging spicy photos throughout the day; watching erotic movies together. |
Erotic board games for couples , dice with poses. |
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3. Changing roles |
Role-playing games : strict boss and subordinate, doctor and patient, strangers in a bar. |
Themed costumes, stockings, masks and other accessories. |
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4. New Horizons |
Sex in an unusual place (kitchen, balcony); trying new, acrobatic positions. |
Sex pillows for comfortable experiments, sex swings . |
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5. Spicy spiciness |
Light bondage, dominance and submission games. |
Silk ribbons, fur handcuffs , blindfolds, whips . |
The Power of Accessories: How Sex Toys Work for Your Couple
Many couples think that sex toys are something for singles or that they will replace a partner . This is a major myth!
"A sex toy for a couple is not a third extra, but a universal assistant that works for the pleasure of both. It does not replace you, but only enhances your caresses." — Anna, pleasure expert polunichka.ua
Try vibrators for couples that simultaneously stimulate a woman's clitoris and a man's penis during sex. Put a vibrating ring on him - she will get additional stimulation, and he - a stronger erection. Or open a world of incredible pleasure for him with a prostate stimulator . It's a new level of intimacy and sensations for both of you.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
- How to suggest that your partner try something new without offending? Through "I-messages". Instead of "let's try...", say: "I have a fantasy in which we... I would be very happy if we could realize it together." Talk about your desires, not about the shortcomings of the current situation.
- What if our sexual fantasies don't match? Find a compromise. Maybe one of you has elements of your fantasy that the other will enjoy (e.g., dominance, role reversal). Discuss what appeals to you about each idea and create your own unique scenario.
- Where to start if we have never used sex toys? Start simple! A vibrator is a perfect start. It can be used to stimulate the clitoris, nipples and other erogenous zones. Or immediately grab a couples vibrator so that no one is left out.
- Role-playing games seem awkward to us. Is there an "easy" way to start? Of course. You don't have to put on costumes right away. Start with a "strangers in a bar" scenario. Meet at a bar, flirt as if you're seeing each other for the first time, and then go "to your place" together. It's a very refreshing feeling.
- How to overcome shyness and feel freer in sex? Start small. Dim lights or a blindfold work wonders. Try an erotic massage to get used to being touched. And most importantly, remember that your partner chose you, and for him you are the most desirable person.
Conclusion
What to try in sex to bring back passion? The answer is simple: everything that interests both of you. Variety in sexual life is not about the number of poses, but about the quality of your emotional contact, about trust, laughter and a sincere desire to make each other happy. Remember, your best sex is still ahead. Experiment, play, surprise each other. And you will always find all the necessary "toys" for the most daring adult games at secretedem.com.
